Wild Mustang and Horse Whisperer-Part 2

If you’ve not yet read part one of this series, you can find it here

I have had about 4-5 dreams throughout my life that I just knew carried deep meaning. I keep a dream journal on my nightstand and try to record these dreams whenever possible. I have found that they give me great insight, acting as ‘keys’ unlocking deeper mysteries.

I shared a dream earlier this week about a beautiful love and connection between a wild mustang and a horse whisperer. This dream was not only vivid, in full color but highly charged on an emotional level.

Something that really stood out in my dream was the deep love the horse whisperer had for this wild Mare. I felt a deep sense of acceptance on the whisperer’s part of her wild nature. Not only acceptance but reverence, respect and honor. He fully embraced and enjoyed her wild nature, yet had an innate ability to work with her wildness from a secure place of love, trust and respect.

How many of us ‘wild women’ have been told time and time again (or implied) that we are too intense, too emotional, too unruly? This has created in many of us a deep sense of shame regarding our feminine qualities and we’ve often felt a need, as a result of this shame to water ourselves down, resist being authentic and true to our nature. We fear scaring others off if we choose to fully embrace our wild feminine nature. This fear is usually connected to deeply rooted fears of rejection and abandonment.  So we sell ourselves short and settle for relationships that are ‘safe’ and suppress our wildness in order to gain the approval and acceptance we’ve failed to receive in the past.

By wildness, I am not referring to a woman who is fully lead only by her emotional intensity. She must, in fact reach a place of balance within first and foremost. Balancing her innate feminine qualities (emotions) with her masculine qualities (logic).  And man, must master this as well. This balance brings a relatedness to our connection , two balanced individuals , creating a solid relationship based on mutual understanding and respect.

Towards the end of this dream, this intense passion was ignited in the horse whisperer toward me. It frightened me initially and my reaction was to run. That wild mustang nature within frightened me and I wanted to flee. He then harnessed his energy and balanced it with understanding and tenderness, securely tapping into his feminine qualities (emotions) , and I felt safe once again.  I avoided reacting in an emotionally charged way, but tapped into my masculine (logic) and expressed my fears in a calm, rational way which in turn made him feel safe.

We met and honored one another through this process, it was beautiful to say the least.

The message here? It is crucial that we seek balance within first and foremost. We must reach a place of fully embracing our masculine and feminine qualities but create space for growth and expansion.

Relationships are like a dance. A mutual give and take. Fine tuning our connection with others to meet one another in such a way that we work with this flow of ever changing energies as opposed to resisting them and fleeing when discomfort arises.  A dance of ‘coming together ‘ and ‘giving space. ‘ Because although we must work together, we must also work independent of one another, reaching a place of autonomy as well as connectedness. This space can be a difficult dynamic if we are not secure within ourselves, solid in our autonomy.

Destiny-Chance or Choice?

I came across a post this morning on Facebook.  You know, one of those cheezy memes set to a beautiful background of ocean, mountain, etc.  The message: 

“Destiny isn’t a matter of chance, but of choice”.

I pondered this for a good while over a steaming cup of Masala Chai.  How many of us can look back over our lives and recognize, in retrospect how many wonderful opportunities we’d missed out on due to our own deep seated insecurities and fears?

Be it love, career choices, location etc. anything that presented itself with that initial seed of passion, yet were carelessly tossed aside on to the rocky soil to die. The graveyard of regret.

I believe we are presented with these ‘Seeds of chance’ regularly, yet we become almost paralyzed by fear of the unknown.  Sadly, more often than not we choose instead , safety and familiarity even if our current choices lack fulfillment , joy, satisfaction and happiness. 

It’s safe, we know what we are getting and have no fear of those surprise curve balls that life might threaten us with, “no risk, no loss” becomes our new mantra.

So, we continue to survive, we continue on in the same life draining scenarios and patterns, hoping and praying that something will eventually give. Hoping for a miracle,longing for the fruit, while tossing the seeds one by one into the wasteland of regret.

What I’ve discovered is that in order to reach that place of fulfillment, satisfaction and happiness we must face our fears head on , and through wobbly legs and trembling hands dare to take the risk. 

Nothing of true value can be obtained through complacency but almost always involves sacrifice and a willingness to take a risk of some sort.

What do we desire? True love, a soulmate? Then we must risk having our heart potentially shattered. A true soulmate connection requires vulnerability and authenticity, there’s just no way around it, yet if our risk pays off we are given a rare, precious gift. A new business? We must risk potential financial loss. Close friendship? We must risk the possibility of deep betrayal. 

While many do indeed choose the path of least resistance, perceived security and safety, this path almost always leads to deep, haunting regret. 

If we can learn to embrace the risk and follow our hearts, even if there is indeed loss associated with those risks, our losses can become our greatest teachers. So in reality can there ever really be such deep loss?  We remain safe, yet empty, or we take the leap and are presented with either the deepest blessings or the most profound lessons. 

Destiny, chance or choice? I’d have to say yes to both. We are presented with the seeds of ‘chance’ throughout our lives, however we have the freedom of ‘choice’ to cast those seeds into the graveyard of regret or plant them in the fertile soil of our hearts, nurturing them with tender care and patience into full fruition.

  

Wild Mustang and Horse Whisperer-Merging of the Masculine and Feminine.

I had a very vivid dream the other night that I’d like to share, it involved a wild mustang and a horse whisperer.

I was out in a large field where I came across a black and white wild mustang.  She was running free through the fields. I felt compelled to follow her. She lead me to a large, warm barn. As I entered she had run into the loving arms of a horse whisperer. I stood there and watched this exchange for quite some time.

This horse whisperer had a certain confidence in how he interacted with the mustang. He was strong, secure, grounded and knew exactly how to calm her. He exhibited a deep inner strength.

Suddenly a overwhelming sense of love and safety became the focus. I watched as he gently touched her face, her body caressing her tenderly. Looking into her eyes,  with a warm smile and softly spoken words.

What stood out most was the emotional connection shared between the two of them. His masculine energy was harnessed and balanced with his free flowing feminine qualities, he confidently expressed. both aspects. The warrior side of him was utilized and channeled into strength and confidence, yet he calmed her, not through force but gentleness, connection and love.

He became a safe place for her. She trusted in his masculinity and strength, his patience, understanding and solidity. She was instantly tamed. She was tamed because she trusted him. Was she still a wild beast? Yes! It wasn’t her nature that changed it was her perception and understanding.  He embraced her wildness, even respected it and honored it, he didn’t force her into submission, he didn’t instill fear in her through force to obtain the desired result. A fearful animal will eventually submit, yet a fearful animal is unpredictable, unstable and will react at the first sign of perceived danger. Mutual submission and honor through love and connection, patience and consistency creates an atmosphere of safety and security. She rests in this place.
I think we can learn much through the symbiotic relationship between horse and horse whisperer.

 The true feminine is wild and free by nature, ever changing like a flowing river, wild with her emotions, intuitive and expressive.

The masculine by nature is steady, earthy, grounded and in control of his masculine energy. He simply has learned to harness it and redirect it in a way that brings solidity and strength.

What I saw in this dream was a merging, a blending of both masculine and feminine energies within , then a manifestation of balance in outward form. A merging of spirit and mind, body and soul.

Both were well aware of each other’s strengths an equal exchange; through this process a relationship was formed, a deep connection full of passion, love, consistency, confidence, trust, communication (even without words) and eventually safety and security.

 

The Connection Within-via Pinterest

 

Women, we must learn to feel safe in the presence of the masculine warrior, we must embrace and fully accept our feminine wildness. This means all of our emotions, fears insecurities and freedom. While he may appear to threatening, he invokes strength and confidence and steadfastness in us.
Men, in turn must learn to harness their intense masculine energy and properly channel it into inner strength and confidence. Men must come to embrace and accept their warrior nature, their fear of being overtaken by the wild feminine, and trust that while she might appear threatening, she invokes passion and tenderness within .
In the Native American tradition, a warrior and his horse were inseparable; in battle they fought together as one. Each in tune with the other’s spirit, they shared the Heart of a Warrior.

Wild Mustang and Horse Whisperer Part 2

https://amaliayosefa.com/2015/12/12/wild-mustang-and-horse-whisperer-part-2/

On Authenticity

The word I keep hearing over and over during my meditation time is authenticity. I think the greatest block that keeps us from being our authentic selves is fear of rejection. 

As we learn to become comfortable within and love and value ourselves flaws and all, we have no choice but to be truly authentic in our interactions with others. As we begin to truly love and value ourselves we set a new standard of how we allow others to treat us.  Thus far, I can’t say with absolute certainty that I love myself unconditionally, I struggle like everyone else with my perceived flaws. The difference now is that I have come to a place where I love and accept myself; the good, the bad, dark, light, all of it.

I have made many mistakes in the past while seeking love and acceptance from others. I’ve tolerated behaviors that I knew deep down were unacceptable. I have played the role of martyr. 

Authenticity-When we live a live of authenticity we begin to flow in a place of ease. We show others exactly who we are, this becomes a natural weeding process in our lives.  We suddenly find ourselves drawing others in who love and accept us for who we are, not what we do or don’t do. We draw those who in turn walk in a place of authenticity themselves. 

There will always be people in our lives who misunderstand our intentions, or who simply don’t like us, that’s ok. When we stand firm in our authenticity and value ourselves, it no longer matters what others think of us. We become comfortable in our own skin. 

We are all works in progress, full of flaws from our various past experiences, that’s ok. These flaws can create in us either a deeper level of understanding and growth, or remain as festering wounds preventing us from living a rich, full life. We get to choose.