“Let today be the day you stop being haunted by the ghost of yesterday. Holding a grudge & harboring anger/resentment is poison to the soul. Get even with people…but not those who have hurt us, forget them, instead get even with those who have helped us.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
I’ve been working toward learning to forgive others who have hurt me. This is no easy task.
To forgive when there’s no apology or acknowledgement of wrongdoing is an act of faith.
The reality is, if we continue to hold on to anger, pain and resentment we are the ones who remain imprisoned. Held captive in a prison of our very own creation. It’s here where we become bitter and angry and sink deeper into darkness and despair.
There must come a time where we stop trying to make sense of injustices brought against us, stop questioning, stop analyzing and just let it go, forgive and move on.
By remaining in this place or darkness we close ourselves off to the good that God/The Universe has for us. And the thing is, the people who hurt us go on without a thought or care for our suffering. We punish ourselves. By holding on to resentment we slowly become mirror images of those who hurt us. We allow darkness full access to our hearts and attract more of the same from the outside. A vicious cycle.
Yes, people will hurt us, yes they will betray us, yes they will lie and use us. But really karma will bring Justice, it’s not our job to remain captive to the behaviors of others. We have a life to live here and now, we have a purpose to pursue. We give our power away by remaining captive to the actions of others.
Let it go. Move on.
What we put out there in the ether we attract. Put out the love that you are and those who truly love and value you will be drawn to you.
Forgive yourself. We are all doing the best we can.
Forgive them. They too are doing the best they can.
Learn from past mistakes and resolve to change those patterns. Our biggest struggles can become our greatest lessons.