“The feminine always seems chaotic and complicated from the perspective of the masculine. The next time you notice yourself trying to fix your woman so that she will no longer _____ (fill in the blank), relax and give her love by touching her and telling her that you love her when she is this way (whatever you filled in the blank with). Embrace her, or wrestle with her, or scream and yell for the heck of it, but make no effort to bring an end to that which pisses you off. Practice love instead of trying to bring an end to the quality that bothers you. You can’t escape the tussle with the feminine. Learn to find humor in the unending emotional drama the feminine seems to enjoy so much. The love that you magnify may realign her behavior, but your effort to fix her and your frustration never will. The world and your woman will always present you with unforeseen challenges. You are either living fully, giving your gift in the midst of those challenges, even today, or you are waiting for an imaginary future which will never come.” ― David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
This is so good! I have started reading David Deida’s book “The Way of the Superior Man”. Let me tell you, my mind is being blown. I am proud to be among the growing number of women out there who refuse to settle for shallow, superficial relationships with ‘boys’.
Yes, boys will view a woman’s wild nature as ‘chaotic’ full of drama, too emotional. Can I just say, that’s not my problem. As I have learned to balance both my masculine and feminine energies, I am more aware now more than ever of my truth and what I will and will not tolerate. The only way a ‘boy’ will step into his purpose and maturity is if we as women start to challenge them. I’m not talking control here, for we know control and manipulation are not going to work, they are simply ineffective tools that temporarily modify behavior. Who wants to take on such a heavy burden?
No we use our feminine energy to challenge the masculine to step up into his ‘own’ power. This creates an atmosphere of authenticity, the choice is his, not through fear or manipulation, but love.
Likewise, men who challenge their woman by modeling the strength and confidence of their own masculine energy creates a safe place and a solid foundation for expression and growth. I have no desire for a ‘yes man’ nor do I have a desire to be ‘mama’ to a man that refuses to grow beyond hormone laden adolescence. I am not afraid of masculine intensity, why? Because I am secure in who I am as a woman, complicated, intense emotions and all. I recognize the value of a strong, solid, secure man to bring balance to my wild feminine side.
It’s time for men to take back their power! The power that was stripped away little by little by the extreme feminist movement to. In a sense they have welcomed this stripping as it has released them of their pure masculine responsibility, yet at the same time there has been a growing resentment toward women as a result of this emasculation. It has created a culture of men who have objectified women, and women who have shamed men for their sexual desire.