The word I keep hearing over and over during my meditation time is authenticity. I think the greatest block that keeps us from being our authentic selves is fear of rejection.
As we learn to become comfortable within and love and value ourselves flaws and all, we have no choice but to be truly authentic in our interactions with others. As we begin to truly love and value ourselves we set a new standard of how we allow others to treat us. Thus far, I can’t say with absolute certainty that I love myself unconditionally, I struggle like everyone else with my perceived flaws. The difference now is that I have come to a place where I love and accept myself; the good, the bad, dark, light, all of it.
I have made many mistakes in the past while seeking love and acceptance from others. I’ve tolerated behaviors that I knew deep down were unacceptable. I have played the role of martyr.
Authenticity-When we live a live of authenticity we begin to flow in a place of ease. We show others exactly who we are, this becomes a natural weeding process in our lives. We suddenly find ourselves drawing others in who love and accept us for who we are, not what we do or don’t do. We draw those who in turn walk in a place of authenticity themselves.
There will always be people in our lives who misunderstand our intentions, or who simply don’t like us, that’s ok. When we stand firm in our authenticity and value ourselves, it no longer matters what others think of us. We become comfortable in our own skin.
We are all works in progress, full of flaws from our various past experiences, that’s ok. These flaws can create in us either a deeper level of understanding and growth, or remain as festering wounds preventing us from living a rich, full life. We get to choose.